She had every illness that the people around her had…this should have been a red flag…but I saw it a reason to be more caring and concerned…I didn’t know it was all fake
She would also tell us about her long list of physical illnesses she had too.
After reading one of my blog posts…one of her family members made a comment to say how kind her father actually is, how he is recovered from cancer and how deeply he mourned the loss of his family. Angel is not only who is left but she isolates him from his siblings.
She was diagnosed with ADHD and Autism later in life. She said she has PTSD from the abuse she suffered from the hands of her father. She told people she was bipolar but also referred to it as BPD at times but would also say she was both bipolar and had Borderline Personality Disorder. She has family members with these issues. She has someone in her family that is Autistic, ADHD, PTSD because of the abuse that this family member suffered at the hands of their abuser…this happened to her family member and she took the story as her own. Angel wasn’t raped, Angel doesn’t have Autism, Angel doesn’t have ADHD,Angel isn’t bipolar, Angel doesn’t have BPD…she met someone at a concert that doesn’t.
The person with BPD is a mutual friend. This person is pissed she stole their diagnosis to use for pity and to control my household. They are pissed she is making light of BPD.
She claims to have “metal” in her back, autoimmune diseases, one was causing her vertebrae to fuse together, she had arthritis in her back, she also had an undiagnosed autoimmune. All of these things were issues she overheard someone else say they had. The back issues were what I talked about. I discussed everything but having metal in my back. The undiagnosed autoimmune, that’s me too.
Whenever she behaved badly she would pull out a new “illness” to blame it on…but it was all a lie.
The one thing she didn’t want us to do is talk to one another. We agreed the day I made her leave that we wouldn’t talk about this and we would just tell people that it didn’t work out.
She started lying during the event that lead to her removal.
She was telling people as we were packing her things. She refused to participate in collecting her belongings. She cried and begged to stay. She apologized and hugged me so I couldn’t move to pack her things. She tried to stay despite telling everyone how abusive I was to everyone I met through her.
She was busy texting, IMing, DMing and messaging everyone never to talk to me or my daughter. If anyone reaches out to you…block them
This was her MO…”that person was abusive towards me so you need to block them”. When she got to our house she did the same thing. She had us immediately block her ex because she was “abusive” but the more I have learned I am absolutely sure that isn’t true.
What a coincidence that she was telling everyone that I was also being “abusive” and that I was being abused by my spouse so her living situation was unsafe.
This wasn’t what we agreed to…she wasn’t saying it didn’t work out.
I was willing to keep her secrets if she just left me and my family alone.
These allegations could cost my spouse their job. Sure you are thinking but if they are not true they wouldn’t loose their job right??? That is not how it works in every situation, in real life good people loose their jobs over false allegations.
It was learning about what she was saying that led me to start recording and taking videos of our interactions. It wasn’t about coming after her, it was about protecting myself and my family.
If my spouse lost their job…we would be homeless. My spouse had worked extremely hard to provide for our family and she could have destroyed it all with one of her lies because she was angry that her free ride was over.
She knew their job relies on his behavior and those around them. Certain jobs require certain things…and if you haven’t had one of these jobs you may not understand. But I did explain it to her, she knew how a false allegation could cost us everything
After people starting reaching out to me, I realized how dangerous Angel actually is…
She was telling people we lived together, just the two of us…odd don’t you think
She talk to people about my physical appearance in a very positive light but was constantly telling me I was old. I haven’t been made to feel old by anyone other than Angel and other than being disrespectful it was abusive.
She pinched me “in her sleep” and left a bruise, small bruise but it doesn’t change the fact she was starting to become abusive with a woman that looked at her as a child in need of help. When I told her what she did… she laughed
She faked seizures to get my attention and she said she was worried about dying of sudep. So I felt like I could never leave her alone while she was sleeping. I would roll her over on her side…but she started to grab me and leave marks on my back. I had sections of small bruises on my back where she would aggressively grab me.
I don’t know how I found myself in an abusive relationship with what I thought was a victim of domestic violence but it was
She would threaten to kill herself when i needed to be away from her and get things done.
She would go to the bathroom to cut herself every time I had a important zoom meeting. She would text from the bathroom to send key words that always meant she was self harming or needed my attention.
Things start to escalate
She wasn’t getting enough attention because I was falling behind at the work I needed to have done. She would get upset until I stopped working. I caught her smiling once when she got me to close the laptop. I was trapped by a woman i thought i was helping.
She would say how she wanted to kill herself so often that I spent nearly every night in tears. She enjoyed making me plead for her to not give up.
She enjoyed making me cry
She kept me up until 5 am the night before a doctor’s appointment. She kept throwing tantrums and wouldn’t let me sleep. It wouldn’t matter to her because she slept all day. I got maybe two hours of sleep and had to drive an hour both ways to my orthopedic surgeon. She was pissed I wouldn’t let her come to my appointment that day.
I started to contemplate how to end this. How do i get out of this situation. I was feeling really bad about myself. I was watching the numbers drop on the scale and still saw an old fat woman in the mirror. I felt trapped by a woman that insisted on never leaving alone for more than a few minutes at a time. She slept on my shoulder and won’t allow me to move or she would fake a seizure or night terror.
I was debating if I should end my own life
I haven’t been in a relationship like that since high school. The kicker was I didn’t realize I was in an abusive relationship…we weren’t in a “relationship” at least I wasn’t.
I have never been worried about the numbers on the scale, I have never had an eating disorder but I am afraid of eating too much now. I am afraid of the numbers going up…I am a grown woman that suddenly is contemplating every bite I put into my mouth.
NO ONE HAS EVER MADE ME FEEL LIKE THIS
She gets away with this because she burns every bridge as she crosses it. She tells everyone not to talk to one another but she runs behind your back and gets to everyone first.
To anyone reading this…if you don’t believe me…you are her next mark
I couldn’t go to physical therapy for a true back injury because she would have a FAKE meltdown. I gave up my heating pad because she said her back was hurting…she laid on that for months while I twisted myself in hopes to make my back stop hurting. I need my heating pad to sleep, I use it every night…I am laying on it now truth be told.
I am also a side sleeper, it actually makes my back feel better when i am not on my heating pad…but she wouldn’t let me do that either. The moment I would roll over she would FAKE a seizure or a night terror.
For the sake of my family, I did whatever would keep her from screaming and waking up my entire household.
For months she controlled how much I slept, when I slept…which would be a few hours of broken sleep each night. She controlled how much my family slept…if we slept.
Now she is trying to control how the world sees me and thinks of me… despite how much real world damage she can cause my family.
Do her texts to me after she went home sound like she was fearful of me? Do they sound desperate? You be the judge…
She is over six hours away from me and these messages are necessary, she doesn’t need to speak to me…the only thing I have of hers is a turtle I didn’t want to begin with..unless she was fixated on me.
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