So to make her comfortable within my home, I offered conversation.
Within the first few days I noticed she was lying, or at the very least I thought she was. Why wasn’t that a red flag?
I expected anyone that suffered that type of abuse to lie a little…
I expected she would be uncomfortable and try to fit in. I didn’t think she would lie about the important stuff. I believed she was abused and didn’t want to make her feel uncomfortable so I let it go.
I told the story of how I nearly lost my hair as a kid. A tornado came through the area in which I lived while I was getting a perm in my hair. There was mass panic and my mother nearly forgot to put the neutralizer on my hair, had she forgotten all of my hair would have fallen out. (Ironic now, thanks to her it is falling out in droves.)
Suddenly she tells us that her brother lost his hair because she forgot to put the neutralizer on his hair.
Wow, amazing that could happen to the both of us. Why would a guy get a perm? So many questions but she was finally opening up and I didn’t want to cause her shut down again.
Facts matter…this was also a LIE
Her real brother was not only several years too old for this to happen but he didn’t live at home after his teen years. She never lived with him when she would have been old enough to give him a perm. He left home before he learned to drive.
Her other brother from another mother…yes, this was her story. Her father was not only abusive to her but also her mother.
The lie…was her father cheated on her mom and the woman didn’t want the child, so her mother decided to raise him
So if she had given a perm to the other brother that could have been near the appropriate age…HE DID NOT EXIST
It was during this conversation I told her about my brother daring me to pierce my ears. I saw this as a challenge, so I pulled a couple of earrings out of my box and pushed them through my ears. He gasped and I laughed, then said I can’t believe you didn’t think I would do it.
Who would have thunk it…
Guess who also had an ear piercing story. Not only did she pierce hers but her imaginary brother. She said she not only pierced his ears but took this single use piercing gun to school and got in trouble for piercing so many kids ears.
Here’s a secret…she wasn’t liked in school. She has been lying all her life and her peers didn’t like her because of it.
These piercing guns did not exist where the general public could buy them at that point.
She sat at my kitchen island and soaked in those stories as well as the one about my grandmother. When I told her about the condition of the room and family members having to clean up after her suicide…she almost laughed and said well there are people you can pay to clean that up now. Because suddenly her imaginary brother killed himself too.
Although I initially ignored these things, I didn’t forget.
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